I watched with envy last year as many fantastic people embarked on Tabitha Rayne’s challenge for #30DayOrgasmFun: Masturbation For a Mental Health Boost. The idea behind this was to increase awareness of the effects orgasms can have on wellbeing and mental health, and it quickly developed into a journey of discovery and reflection for many. Tabitha has initiated the 30 Days of Orgasm Fun again, with many wishing to take part.
— Tabitha Rayne (@TabithaErotica) March 23, 2018
In 2017 I started taking citalopram, and a really difficult side effect was the inability to orgasm during this time. In the past, I had been able to quickly and efficiently reach orgasm through masturbation, and enjoyed orgasms through clitoral and penetrative stimulation with a partner. So when I was unable to do any of this, it really shook me. I became a sex blogger, who couldn’t orgasm and who struggled to get ‘wet’ (something I still struggle with at the moment) and I felt like a failure. It was only recently I’ve been able to return to being able tovorgasm at least four times in a week, and with this in mind I have decided to embark on my own 30 Days of Orgasm Fun.
This is not a challenge. If I have days where I can’t orgasm, I will not have failed. I am treating this as a way to experiment with, record and observe the effects that orgasms have on my body. I want to try with new toys, with no toys, with partners and on my own. How does my orgasm differ if I’ve been messaging some fucking hot filth to someone I want to enact said fucking hot filth? Or does it change if I’m watching or listening to porn? What fantasies will get me off most successfully? Regarding partnered sex, what is my body wanting this month?
Although I won’t be maintaining a public diary, I will note down any thing particularly interesting or poignant in this post as time goes by, and will publish my conclusions at the end of the month.
Tabitha Rayne is an erotic author and artist, who designed the award winning
#RubyGlow vibrator @TheRubyGlow made by @rocksoffltd. Tabitha also produced the cover art for both Identity: An Eroticon Anthology and Truth: An Eroticon Anthology.