Solo sex used to feel like a chore. I’d get in bed, go through the motions, and call it a night. Then I tried my first real sex toy — not the cheap bullet one from a gas station, but something designed to actually work with my body and give me pleasure.
That changed everything.
Here are the toys that made solo nights something I look forward to — and why they might do the same for you.
1. The Rabbit Vibrator (Yes, It’s Worth the Hype)
I rolled my eyes at this one at first. Everyone talks about rabbit vibes like they’re magic. But after trying the Lelo Mona 2, I finally got it.
It hits the clitoris and G-spot at the same time. The vibrations are deep, not buzzy. And the build quality feels like a luxury item, which makes the experience feel more intentional.
You don’t need a partner to hit multiple erogenous zones. This toy does it better than most people can.
2. The Wand (More Than Just a Backrubber)
I bought a wand thinking I’d use it on sore muscles. Then I gave it a try down below and realized I had no idea what I was missing.
The Hitachi Magic Wand is the OG. It’s strong, it’s loud, and it works fast. If you want a full-body orgasm without hours of foreplay, this thing delivers.
Use it with lube and take your time. It’s not subtle, but it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes you just want to come hard and fall asleep.
3. The Suction Toy (For Clitoral Stimulation You Can Feel)
I didn’t think suction toys would work for me. I thought they’d feel weird or too much. But the Womanizer Starlet surprised me.
It uses air pressure to stimulate the clitoris, not vibration. It feels like someone giving oral without using their tongue. It’s soft. It’s intense. It’s different.
If you’ve had trouble coming from clitoral stimulation before, this toy might change your mind.
4. The App-Controlled Bullet (Hands-Free Fun When You Want It)
I got the We-Vibe Tango X mostly because I liked the idea of being able to control it from my phone. What I didn’t expect was how fun it was to use during video calls.
It’s small. It’s quiet. It pairs easily with an app. And if you’re into teasing yourself or letting someone else take control, it adds a new layer of play.
You don’t always need someone in the room to feel connected.
5. The G-Spot Wand (For Deep Internal Pleasure)
This one took me a while to warm up to. I assumed internal toys were only for people who like penetration. I was wrong.
The Eve by Bespoke Surgical is curved to find the G-spot easily. It has deep vibrations that feel more like pressure than buzz. It helped me understand my body in a new way.
Some orgasms start in the belly. This toy knows how to get there.
Final Thoughts
Sex toys used to feel like a backup plan — something to use when no one else was around. Now, I see them as tools for self-pleasure, discovery, and confidence.
They taught me what I like. They showed me how to ask for it. And they made solo sex feel good again.
If you’ve never tried one, start simple. Pick one that matches what turns you on. Don’t overthink it. Just try.
You might surprise yourself.